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24 Sep 2017


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By Gracie Carroll

Keeping The Spark Alive When You’re 5 Years In and Busy AF

By Gracie Carroll

Gracie Carroll - Keeping The Spark Alive When You’re 5 Years In and Busy AF - eHarmony

For what felt like the longest time ever, I was the girl who never had a boyfriend. Although I was 18 when I met the boy who would become my first real boyfriend (we dated for nearly four years), and 18 seems like a total baby age to me now, at the time it felt like I was doomed to be a spinster.

That boyfriend followed me to New York City, and later I followed him to London, England. When I eventually moved back home to Toronto, I decided it was best for us to part ways for good and I had no plans of going back. I was tired of our hot and cold relationship, and our personalities constantly clashing.

When we broke up I was certain that I would be single for the next ten years, and I was totally okay with that. I’ve never been afraid of being single, and considering how long it took me to find someone I liked enough the first time, I thought it was inevitable that I would be single for a very. long. time. afterwards.

Quite the opposite happened. When I wasn’t looking whatsoever, I met the man I would start dating (and keeping dating up to present day) only a few months after returning home. Now, it’s been five years, we own a house together, we have a cat (Hi Emmy!), and enjoy a very full life together. Life with Josh is very good.

As you can imagine, our lives and relationship have changed over five years together. When we met, I was still a wild young thing with a vision of starting an epic blog and had literally zero dollars in my bank account. Hit fast forward on our half decade together and we’ve reached a point where I’m now the breadwinner in our household, I travel more, and work keeps me away from him, a lot. Say hello to the realities of that #GirlBoss life.

It ain’t always easy, but I am always grateful to have a partner who is my biggest cheerleader and always has been. To have someone who understands how important it is to me to build my career and be successful. Who always greets me with a big smile and warm hug no matter what time of day (or night) when I get home. Who never gets mad at me for sometimes (okay, very often) having to put work before us, and always has a shoulder for me to cry on.

When online matchmaking service, eHarmony, asked me to share some of my advice for keeping the spark alive when you’re in a relationship, I realized that so much of what keeps us going has to do with me making sure I prioritize working on my relationship as much as any other type of work I give my time to. Since so many of you are badass boss babes too, here are some of my tips for keeping the spark alive when you’re busy AF.

Gracie Carroll - Keeping The Spark Alive When You’re 5 Years In and Busy AF - eHarmony

Schedule Time Together

Find Little Things You Love

Go On Dates

Get Dressed Up

Spend Time Alone

Go On Vacation

So there you have it. I’m no relationship expert, but this is what works for mine. Ultimately, the most important thing to have is someone who loves you, and who compliments who you are, and everything you do. The same needs to be true about you for them.

Although I feel lucky to have found someone as special as Josh through a chance meeting in person (I went up to him when he was DJ’ing a party and then stalked him on Facebook which miraculously lead to him asking me out), if I were single today I know I wouldn’t have time to waste on dating duds. I appreciate the effort that eHarmony puts into helping people find love with someone who is truly compatible with them. If you’ve been too busy to meet anyone (or have been struggling to find the right person), maybe it’s time to give eHarmony a try? It’s worth a shot!





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